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Title: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: ToneDef on Jan 01, 2009, 11:05 PM
And it hurts more than anything else in the world. I don't know what to do, you know? I can't stop crying and shit. I just feel so empty. I know this doesn't last forever but while it does it's just horrible. I just feel so sad.
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: lostpilot on Jan 01, 2009, 11:19 PM
The only thing I would do then is to wait it out.
Keep up the spirits, man..
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: ToneDef on Jan 01, 2009, 11:23 PM
I'm trying. I been seeing my friends non stop. Once I'm on my own though I just can't handle it. She's not even talking to me which makes it worse. The person I gave so much of myself to has just kinda cut me off. It's so fucking hard.
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: Penicks on Jan 01, 2009, 11:26 PM
fucking kill her
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: fliesinajar on Jan 02, 2009, 12:17 AM
then deftones would be your answer my friend, head up! ;)
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: bebo on Jan 02, 2009, 12:18 AM
Baw.
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: theis on Jan 02, 2009, 12:25 AM
wow, on new years eve? that's fucking harsh.

sorry about it, man.
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: black coffee on Jan 02, 2009, 12:54 AM
did anything happen that night, which gave her reason to break up?
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: defskull on Jan 02, 2009, 12:58 AM
Talking on a message board to random people is usually what I do when a girl breaks up with me. 
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: deftonekid on Jan 02, 2009, 01:01 AM
Quote from: penguin in the desert on Jan 02, 2009, 12:25 AM
wow, on new years eve? that's fucking harsh.

sorry about it, man.
yeah that sucks.

Just try to focus on other things, I know the wound is fresh but you got to move on even its so painful but stay strong bro. Maybe some Deftones music helps.
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: White Pwny on Jan 02, 2009, 01:11 AM
I'm sorry Trav.   =o(
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: whodunit? on Jan 02, 2009, 01:12 AM
awful beginning of the year.

I hope everything will be ok.
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: lithium on Jan 02, 2009, 02:45 AM
Quote from: Penicks on Jan 01, 2009, 11:26 PM
fucking kill her
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: mrs_swa on Jan 02, 2009, 02:47 AM
Quote from: penguin in the desert on Jan 02, 2009, 12:25 AM
wow, on new years eve? that's fucking harsh.

+1


sorry  :(
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: Muzic Junkie on Jan 02, 2009, 03:40 AM
Theres a postive actually theres not
Yeaaah just kill her
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: devilinside on Jan 02, 2009, 04:32 AM
Wow...that's really crappy. There has to be some underlying reason for her to up and just do something so sudden.

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Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: Variable on Jan 02, 2009, 06:17 AM
Shitty bro.  Especially how she isn't talking to you.

I would normally tell you to stop talking to her all together.  Don't even try to contact her, and don't let her contact you.  Because that is the quickest way to get over someone in my opinion.  But if I remember correct, you too have been together a while?  And you obviously really liked her and probably need to talk some things out.  So just try to wait it out.  A lot of times girls just need a little space and a bit of time to re group.  She is probably planning on contacting you in a week or two.  She probably just needs a bit of time to herself.  A bit of time to think is all.  Just try and keep your head up as much as you can.  I know it sucks and it hurts.  But remember that YOU are the shit and you don't deserve to be hurt like that.  Just try to remember that she more that likely will contact you soon and that she will probably only appreciate you more.  But you can't look sad and pathetic to her.  Just be your normal charming self and remind her what she is missing out on.  Hopefully, everything will work out for the best.

I really am sorry though.  I think everyone here has been in those shoes before.  I don't wish that on anyone.  You got the right idea, going out with your friends a lot.  It will get better with time one way or the other. 
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: Hidalgo on Jan 02, 2009, 06:40 AM
Quote from: ToneDef on Jan 01, 2009, 11:05 PMI know this doesn't last forever but while it does it's just horrible. I just feel so sad.
i've heard it doesnt last forever too, that time will heal all wounds, that was over 10 years ago, and i'm still heartbroken
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: bright lights, big city on Jan 02, 2009, 09:13 AM
yeah man just hang with your real friends. mine always make me feel better. but still, on new years? what the fuck
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: Zevaka on Jan 02, 2009, 12:33 PM
hey, what was the reason? oh she just silently left?
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: Martin on Jan 02, 2009, 02:05 PM
Sorry to hear that man :(

Quote from: penguin in the desert on Jan 02, 2009, 12:25 AM
wow, on new years eve? that's fucking harsh.

Agreed.

Quote from: Variable on Jan 02, 2009, 06:17 AM
But remember that YOU are the shit and you don't deserve to be hurt like that. 

True as well.

Some people (chick in this case) can be so heartless and/or self indulgent.
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: Jizzlobber on Jan 02, 2009, 02:41 PM
I had sex on the night.

was fueled by Jager and Jose Quervo..
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: StreetCarp1 on Jan 02, 2009, 04:04 PM
Sorry to hear that man. My suggestion is to leave her be. Don't call her, don't text her or anything. That usually works for me. After a day or so, they usually are like "why isn't he calling me, what is doing, did he get over me" all that good stuff. I bet you she calls you then. Just a thought.
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: pissedandpierced on Jan 02, 2009, 05:42 PM
I really am sorry to hear that. Personally I would write a letter to her and explain how upset you are, how much you cared about her and stuff, you don't have to send it but it may help writing it all down and if you do send it then it will show her how much she has hurt you. It's so easy to text and call these days and she may want some space as other people have mentioned. If you send her a letter then she has time to digest everything. If that doesn't help then get a train to Norwich and get high with me.
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: StreetCarp1 on Jan 02, 2009, 05:54 PM
Also, take a couple xanax, it will make you forget about everything.
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: ToneDef on Jan 02, 2009, 06:31 PM
Yeah I may do the letter at some point. I tried not to contact her but I have given in a few times and txt her. When I'm at home on my own it gets too much and I just need to hear from her or something.

It was all just kinda weird. We were really cool, then one night she went out with some of her old friends, including some guy who's been txting her. The next day she txt me saying we're over. Her reasons are basically that we weren't going anywhere and that I didn't show I cared enough. That's true to an extent but this year was gonna be the year I fucking give her everything,. I was gonna ask her to marry me, try to get a place with her.. everything. It's just too late though.

The thought of her with this other guy just makes me so fucking sick. I miss her so much. I can't eat, I can't sleep. All I'm doing when I'm at home is smoking weed to send me to sleep. It just hurts too much being awake cuz all you can do is think about things. But then I'll have a dream when we're together, but then I'll wake up and it's just the worst feeling. The pain is just unbearable.

Thanks for the replies anyway.
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: StreetCarp1 on Jan 02, 2009, 06:58 PM
Be strong man. She just cant get over you in a day, that not possible. I think shes on some tantrum where she wants to be by herself and with her friends and possible see whats out there. Send her some flowers or something, show her what she missing out on. If not, just dont even contact her for a few days and see what happens. I went through the same thing with my chick not to long ago, i used the not contacting her technique and it worked. She will be back buddy and I can assure you of that. Just be strong my friend, it will all work out.
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: Variable on Jan 02, 2009, 07:42 PM
how old is she?

and I think the the consensus around here is to not contact her.  As long as she thinks she still has you wrapped around her finger, and she can come back to you at any point, she will treat you like shit.  She needs to know that she could lose you forever.  Or maybe she has lost you forever.  Scare some sense into her, you know?
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: defTHE1s on Jan 02, 2009, 10:01 PM
sorry for hearing that.. i just wrote something here but since my time logged in ended, i couldn's post the message... maybe i'll write it again later, but not know... it's alla bout girls (my situation) and an advise to you... let her just think... no contact... if she contacts you maybe that means something... if not... well maybe that's definetely the end... hope not but...
hope you know her very well to know (or think) what is she thinking right now...
that's sad, especially on new years eve...  :(  :-\
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: ToneDef on Jan 02, 2009, 11:11 PM
I know the whole no contact thing would maybe work, but I know her and don't think it would. Anyway, I wrote a letter. I spent like 4 hours on that fucker, smoked a cig, decided, drove to her house and put it through her door. If she's not gonna speak to me then at least I told her how I feel. That's all I can do now.. Just wait it out.

Thanks guys, really. I been on here nearly 6 years, I just wanted some input from the people on here. Posting my shit on here doesn't seem weird. It helps. Thank you.
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: pissedandpierced on Jan 02, 2009, 11:37 PM
I'm so glad that you are starting to move on in a way. You know that everyone on here loves you, you have the best Deftones tattoo ever and your totally cool. I know what will make you laugh though, I have this crush on this guy I see at gigs and I have just realised that I have been messaging his brother about Chimaira.
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: White Pwny on Jan 03, 2009, 12:29 AM
You did the right thing Travis. 

I feel bad for both in this situation... if she thinks she wasn't getting enough of your time.. and you guys have been together for a while, of course she will seek what she needs out, even if it isn't with you.    I hope you told her in the letter that this was to be the year to change things.   Perhaps if she reads how you REALLY feel, and sees that you are looking for something long term, and that you WANT to spend time with her, things can really turn around.   

Mozzy went thru a breakup quite a while ago, and he and I talked alot.   After a few months, they got back together and are now living together.  Things will work out exactly how they are supposed to Travis.  Keep your chin up.   =o)
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: tarkil on Jan 03, 2009, 09:12 AM
I'm really sorry to hear that my friend...
I'm not really good for this kind of advices, but I can tell you what worked for me : just see your mates all the time, try to be busy as much as you can seeing people, doing stuff, etc. All the time you are doing something is the time you will not think too much about her, and will not feel too down...

Whatever happens in the next few days, stay strong and as everyone said it already, don't contact her too much, she needs to see that you are not an easy thing that she can play with.

Keep your head up my friend, and as hard as it is now, and whatever happens, remember time heals everything anyway...
Good luck brother.
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: ToneDef on Jan 04, 2009, 06:59 PM
She eventually got hold of me today while I was at work. We had a long txt conversation and it's over. She wants pretty much nothing to do with me. I fucked up so bad by not making enough effort when it mattered. I've lost her for good and it hurts so so much. I just saw some new pics of her on her Facebook and she looks so happy and so fucking gorgeous. And she's not mine anymore. I want to talk to her so much but it'll just drive her away further. This just hurts so much.
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: Martin on Jan 04, 2009, 10:24 PM
Man, I am really sorry to hear this man. It's so wrong it make my stomach turn, in the way that, there are countless other ways to show dissatisfaction with your relationship, to show you want more attention, then ending it straight away. Maybe there are other motives at work?
If you have shared friends, you might want to hit them up, as to what the fuck she think she's doing. After that, or if not, go with what Tarkil said. Go do stuff with friends. Talk about it if it's to much, try to think of other things when it's not, take time and gain perspective. Go on holiday. Change of scenery. You're welcome to crash my couch if you want to hang out in Holland for awhile.
Anyway, take care dude 8)
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: Uno on Jan 05, 2009, 12:26 AM
oh man im in the same situation. the best thing to do is to not have any contact with the other person.  I actually moved from Cali to Oregon Last 2 weeks ago, and she has been texting me non stop and checking my facebook/myspace to see who im talking to or to see how i am. Just relax bro. whats happening to you happend to me.  Ive been with this girl for about 6 years and it hurts too much to let go. keep your head up
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: fireflyry on Jan 05, 2009, 12:46 AM
Bro...that blows.

In saying, if she cared she wouldn't do that at such a time.

IMO that's intentional hurt.

To the point where maybe she hopes you get angry, or hurt enough, that it excuses her actions.Even if she doesn't want to be with you there is a difference between an acceptable time and place to say so ,with respect of what you had, and a way to do it to spite.

Be wary and careful my friend.

I sense nasty motives to such things.

In saying I have a solution bro:

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Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: ToneDef on Jan 05, 2009, 03:54 PM
Thanks guys. Tuck, I may take you up on that offer sometime. Uno, I'm sorry you're going through similar shit. I wouldn't wish it on anyone. As you were with her for 6 years you must have a ton more happy little memories that are haunting you. Sorry man.

The latest update is basically what happened last night. Her best friend, this girl, txt me to ask if I had any of her DVD's. I  didn't but I had a present for her kid that was originally gonna be from me and Holly for his 3rd birthday. Well, I guess I was holding onto it so Holly could get it herself, like an excuse to see her. But that was just stupid so I told her friend I'd run it up as she lives kinda near me. Well I drove it up and she asked if I wanted to come in. I wasn't going to but fuck it, why not, right? We ended up just having a chat 'cause I always got on with her anyway and I ended up finding out a couple things that made me feel a bit better.

The night out they both had a couple nights ago, where Holly looks so fucking beautiful in the pics on Facebook, wasn't much of a night out at all. They were only out a few hours before Holly wanted to go home because she was feeling really upset. I know it's a small thing but before then I kinda just assumed she wasn't feeling what I was. Like she just cut me off without feeling anything. I found out she's been crying a lot and stuff. It was just kinda reassuring that she's hurting too.

Well her friend said to just give it a little while and to give her time to think about things and stuff. That's all I can do. I'll let anyone know of anything major that happens but if it doesn't then thanks guys for all the comments. I feel like a pussy but fuck it, it hurts man.
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: Jacob on Jan 06, 2009, 02:33 AM
sorry to hear all this dude. heartache is a fucking bitch. all I'm gonna add is give her space - nothing good comes from pushing. I'm an expert at not letting go and it's turned deep shit into much deeper shit every time. you can't force someone into feeling what you want them to feel, unfortunately.
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: goldpony on Jan 06, 2009, 02:40 AM
keep on truckin brother. take it as a lesson learned, now you know what to do next time. always take the time to tell the ones you love how much you care. like how you said you had planned to ramp it up this year, you obviously knew you had been lacking on that front. stop bein a meathead and express yourself and put in quality time
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: Martin on Jan 06, 2009, 07:52 AM
Good you got to hear about from a mutual friend, and that is some assuring news by far: quite clearly now, she isn't heartless and did not just disappear, along with every feeling. Give it time indeed.

And feel free dude. Always good to meet up with fellow SL members, even under rough circumstances.
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: ToneDef on Jan 06, 2009, 03:15 PM
I just gotta let her go now. She really doesn't wanna know. I wished her all the best and said goodbye. Still not in person, but whatever. I been making things worse but now I just gotta let her go. It's really hard, but I'll do it. I still keep crying when the pain gets too much but I know it'll pass one day.

Thanks guys, so much.
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: tarkil on Jan 06, 2009, 03:40 PM
Good luck my man... My couch is open in HK too, even if it's a little bit further away.....
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: whodunit? on Jan 06, 2009, 11:58 PM
I remember a dream I used to have when we were close to a break-up with my girlfriend (which fortunately did not happen).

I'm sitting in the rear of the bus. We go through some rural area, at night in winter. And I see back of heads of some men sitting before me. Then I relaise thta they are apst and feature men of my girlfriend. They all start to laugh and I wake up.

creepy!
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: Juicy Fruit on Jan 07, 2009, 01:23 AM
Quote from: ToneDef on Jan 01, 2009, 11:05 PM
And it hurts more than anything else in the world. I don't know what to do, you know? I can't stop crying and shit. I just feel so empty. I know this doesn't last forever but while it does it's just horrible. I just feel so sad.

I'm so sorry :(
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: jv_ on Jan 07, 2009, 04:30 AM
Quote from: ToneDef on Jan 06, 2009, 03:15 PM
I just gotta let her go now. She really doesn't wanna know. I wished her all the best and said goodbye. Still not in person, but whatever. I been making things worse but now I just gotta let her go. It's really hard, but I'll do it. I still keep crying when the pain gets too much but I know it'll pass one day.

Thanks guys, so much.
i went through the saaaame shit man this past summer
it really does make it harder when you remain in contact, but it eventually does get easier to function down the line.
just surround yourself with good people and dont use weed or booze as a crutch, shit just fucks with your emotions even more
keeping a journal helped me let out how i was feeling, and when you look back you can see how foolish you might have felt.
you say alot of dumb self loathing shit when youre all emo
and trying to just be friends is a bad idea, you just gotta let go. you dont wanna hear about her new relationships and shit
and definitely dont get self destructive and end up going to jail and shit, its no fun.
you'll be iight
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: Uno on Jan 07, 2009, 06:41 AM
Quote from: ToneDef on Jan 06, 2009, 03:15 PM
I just gotta let her go now. She really doesn't wanna know. I wished her all the best and said goodbye. Still not in person, but whatever. I been making things worse but now I just gotta let her go. It's really hard, but I'll do it. I still keep crying when the pain gets too much but I know it'll pass one day.

Thanks guys, so much.

I did the same thing last night. I couldnt take it anymore, I  said good bye and wished her the best. And after that i went to sprint and changed my number. Its not good to remain friends with someone you cant be with. So after figuring this out. I think its better just to go your separate ways. Now lets go out and meet new people. =]
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: shine down unshy on Jan 07, 2009, 07:03 AM
Word!  This is a good healing thread.  I'm going through this..still. 
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: Uno on Jan 07, 2009, 08:33 AM
oh and to add to this. she just came to my house crying and shit...
i just said no. and get away from me. take all the stuff she had given me. and told her to get oout my life.
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: lostpilot on Jan 07, 2009, 01:44 PM
Quote from: Uno on Jan 07, 2009, 08:33 AM
oh and to add to this. she just came to my house crying and shit...
i just said no. and get away from me. take all the stuff she had given me. and told her to get oout my life.

oh yeah, my ex is also one of those who keep coming back and being interested in you and shit. and now when she finally understood she's not getting me (cause I just want her gone out of my life), she's acting like such a bitch everywhere I see her, and the worst thing is - we are both studying the same subject in the university. so I will still see her for more than two years. this blows. I just want her to disappear.
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: Jacob on Jan 07, 2009, 03:17 PM
don't fall in love. it's that simple.
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: goldpony on Jan 07, 2009, 11:34 PM
Quote from: aenemic on Jan 07, 2009, 03:17 PM
don't fall in love. it's that simple.

either that, or murder the person once its over
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: ToneDef on Jan 08, 2009, 12:02 AM
Man, if she turned up at my house crying and shit I'd probably pass out from fucking relief. Like, a real fucking stroke. I'd probably die and shit.

Thanks guys, nice one _jv
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: whodunit? on Jan 08, 2009, 11:28 AM
"I've been drinking black mirror again
the closer we part
(...)
if you consume me I will not let you go
if you walk right through me
my voice will taint your throat
blessed be the wrong I've done
"
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: ToneDef on Jan 09, 2009, 12:42 AM
Well she's met someone else so that's it.
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: shine down unshy on Jan 09, 2009, 03:36 AM
Just stop expecting her to come back, get on with your life..you're an attractive guy, you will find someone who will love you long time.  Keep ya head up, boi.
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: devilinside on Jan 09, 2009, 03:44 AM
Live and Learn.
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: Uno on Jan 09, 2009, 08:52 AM
Quote from: ToneDef on Jan 09, 2009, 12:42 AM
Well she's met someone else so that's it.
dang mang.. cheer up bro. how to do you know thats true?
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: Jacob on Jan 09, 2009, 10:17 AM
Quote from: ImperfectCircle on Jan 09, 2009, 03:36 AM
you're an attractive guy

omg, you GAY1?!!!
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: Martin on Jan 09, 2009, 01:03 PM
Quote from: Uno on Jan 09, 2009, 08:52 AM
Quote from: ToneDef on Jan 09, 2009, 12:42 AM
Well she's met someone else so that's it.
dang mang.. cheer up bro. how to do you know thats true?

Wow. Twists and turns.
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: Jacob on Jan 09, 2009, 01:24 PM
Quote from: ToneDef on Jan 09, 2009, 12:42 AM
Well she's met someone else so that's it.

dude, she's on the rebound. she's hooking up with someone because she can't stand being alone right now, and probably also to hurt you, but it will probably not last.
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: devilinside on Jan 09, 2009, 02:43 PM
Quote from: aenemic on Jan 09, 2009, 10:17 AM
Quote from: ImperfectCircle on Jan 09, 2009, 03:36 AM
you're an attractive guy

omg, you GAY1?!!!

LOL! Nothin wrong with a dude admitting another dude is nice lookin.....
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: ToneDef on Jan 09, 2009, 10:06 PM
Well hey, I am a pretty boy!

I saw a convo on Facebook where she said she is but she actually txt me to deny it, then we kinda had a long chat last night, sending txts and shit. It was really nice to be talking to her and understand a little. She heard what i have to say a bit, and i think she was surprised with how I really have kinda realised my mistakes and it wouldn't happen again. She explained to me that she never fell out of love with me, just our relationship. She fell asleep though which was really gay, just as I was kinda making progress without forcing it.

But fuck it, I was still brazen enough to send her her favourite flowers today. It's more than likely fucked everything up again, but I ain't got shit to lose no' mo'. You don't win wars by accepting defeat, right? And if you're gonna go, go out with a bang.
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: White Pwny on Jan 09, 2009, 10:15 PM
Besides, might has well try, right?    I'm sorry you are feeling down, Trav.   HOpefully she will come around and see that you really want to make things right.
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: goldpony on Jan 10, 2009, 09:48 PM
i say fuck that ho. move on and move up ;) sorry to be crude about it but it needed to be said. now quit your bitchin and get on with your life
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: White Pwny on Jan 10, 2009, 09:50 PM
*coughs*    She broke up with him because he wasn't investing the time into it like he should have... even he admits that.    It don't really make her a HO or someone to give up on.   
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: goldpony on Jan 10, 2009, 09:54 PM
yeah, but shes clearly movin on and calling her names makes it easier to not see her as an object of affection or friendship. and like i said before, he should take this as a lesson learned and move on, trying to salvage a relationship rarely works

i was trying to pysch him out, thanks a lot :D
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: White Pwny on Jan 10, 2009, 09:57 PM
lolz.  sry.    I'm just saying that perhaps this was also a wake up call.   Women need their time.  She wasnt given enough and she did something about it.  Now, he is serious about her,  and he should at the very least let her know what he can offer her, so she has the opportunity to try to make it work if she really loves him.   If she thought the relationship was going no where.. what was she expected to do?   I just thought good move with the flowers..after a few attempts... if it still don't work.   I agree.  Move on.
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: Martin on Jan 16, 2009, 05:13 PM
Good to hear there's a possibility things can work out. Hopefully it's for the right reasons. That said, breaking up is kind of a harsh approach to get some attention back. Where there any attempts before this to get it through? Like...talking...It's more about the drama then getting the actual message across isn't it? And what about the future? There's going to be a lot of phases where the attention level will drop: work, stress, whatever. Is she going to bail every damn time?
And what about the possible 'other' dude? A lie to get you to do something? Terrible excuse! The truth? Even worse!

I dunno, I don't know the whole story of course, and if I did, just my opinion.
In the end, to me, it's about what the two of you want. Something together? Go for it, and stop fucking around.
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: White Pwny on Jan 16, 2009, 07:02 PM
Tuck, have I told you lately that I love you?      =o)
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: bIondie on Jan 16, 2009, 09:27 PM
personally, i think tonedef was a terrible boyfriend and got what he deserved. he failed to appreciate what he had until he lost it. suck it.

hi, xyn!

<3
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: Martin on Jan 19, 2009, 08:47 AM
Quote from: White Pwny on Jan 16, 2009, 07:02 PM
Tuck, have I told you lately that I love you?      =o)

Hahah don't know if that's raging sarcasm but uhm...thanks :D
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: White Pwny on Jan 19, 2009, 08:01 PM
Quote from: Tuck on Jan 19, 2009, 08:47 AM
Quote from: White Pwny on Jan 16, 2009, 07:02 PM
Tuck, have I told you lately that I love you?      =o)

Hahah don't know if that's raging sarcasm but uhm...thanks :D

Nope   *shakes head*   I mean it!   =o)     Hope to talk to you soon!
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: ToneDef on Jan 19, 2009, 09:45 PM
Still haven't seen her, still not really talking to me. I just been getting on with things and stuff. I'm pretty sure she's seeing the original guy who was txting her though which sucks.

She's due to bring my things over sometime this week. Hopefully it'll be her that does so. If she does then I'll ask her if we can talk and stuff, just a real conversation. It'll be my last chance really. I'm trying not to hold out though because if I pin all my hopes on her coming up and then her brother or something does it instead, then the let down will be fucked up.

I still miss her like crazy, but the sickness in my stomach is less often. It's getting easier sometimes, but other days are still so hard.

Fuck heartbreak.
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: Jacob on Jan 19, 2009, 10:00 PM
the way you talk, you still seem determined to get her back. is that really what you want? is that the best way, to risk being turned down again?
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: Jizzlobber on Jan 19, 2009, 10:00 PM
im sorry to hear about your continued sense of pain and loss.

i can only stop joking around now and try give some real advice.

just keep taking it a day at a time, but teh real key now is to get out and about..dont stay at home by yourself..get out whenever you can, hang around with all of your friends constantly, dont isolate yourself...it NEVER helps.

you WILL meet someone else..and when that happens...this will all be but a memory. i know that is true.
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: ToneDef on Jan 19, 2009, 10:07 PM
Quote from: aenemic on Jan 19, 2009, 10:00 PM
the way you talk, you still seem determined to get her back. is that really what you want? is that the best way, to risk being turned down again?

Yeah I want her back man. More than anything. It's not healthy or helping me right now, but it's a feeling I can't shake, you know? I'd risk this shit again for just one more chance. I've really been trying to forget and stuff, like push her to the back of my mind. I been hanging with friends, getting insanely high and having a good time when I can. But at the end of the day, I have to actually want to forget her for that to happen, and I don't wanna forget her man. Not right now.

If I get to see her and talk to her then I'll at least get say my piece and get it out, you know? If she's moved on she's moved on. I'll at least be able to say goodbye. The best case would be if she actually gave me a chance. Even if it didn't work then I'd know that this time around I'd have given it my all and it just wasn't meant to be.

Fuck it, I'm still fucked up. But I been able to think about things more clearly every day. I'm still in love though man, and the harder you try to get rid of that feeling, the worse it gets.

Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: Martin on Jan 21, 2009, 02:50 PM
Man, this sucks. It seemed that there was a possibility, and now it seems it's over. Hope a clear answer will come out, so you can close this and move on.

Quote from: White Pwny on Jan 19, 2009, 08:01 PM
Quote from: Tuck on Jan 19, 2009, 08:47 AM
Quote from: White Pwny on Jan 16, 2009, 07:02 PM
Tuck, have I told you lately that I love you?      =o)

Hahah don't know if that's raging sarcasm but uhm...thanks :D

Nope   *shakes head*   I mean it!   =o)     Hope to talk to you soon!

:)
*huggs Cyn*
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: ToneDef on Jan 22, 2009, 03:03 PM
This shit has really dragged out. I'm so emo.

Anyway, significant development...

You know how I was hoping she'd bring my stuff over herself last night? Well it didn't happen. Her friend txt me to say she'd be bringing it round instead. That was kinda fucked and I pretty much accepted I'd never see her again, that she'd just cut me off, you know?

Well I was at my friends last night getting massively stoned, like on a 9 hour session, when my fucking phone went off. It was her. She txt me saying she misses me and that she wants to meet up. She's coming over later. Right when I fucking least expected it.

Shit is crazy.
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: Jacob on Jan 22, 2009, 03:07 PM
good luck dude. easy and calm.
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: goldpony on Jan 22, 2009, 07:24 PM
dont do it! kick her to the curb, you dont need these games
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: jv_ on Jan 23, 2009, 03:33 AM
Quote from: goldpony on Jan 22, 2009, 07:24 PM
dont do it! kick her to the curb, you dont need these games
yeah man

but good luck anyways
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: defTHE1s on Jan 23, 2009, 04:23 AM
Quote from: jv_ on Jan 23, 2009, 03:33 AM
Quote from: goldpony on Jan 22, 2009, 07:24 PM
dont do it! kick her to the curb, you dont need these games
yeah man

but good luck anyways
+1
shit happens when you just aren't expecting it...
but this shit maybe would be for good... just don't be too "massively stoned" when you met her, to stay easy and calm....  ;)
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: ToneDef on Jan 23, 2009, 04:46 AM
Yeah, I waited 'til she had gone home before I jumped in the car to go get stoned.

We're gonna try again anyway. Crazy shit I tells ya.

But I got my chance, I ain't gonna screw this shit up.
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: Jacob on Jan 23, 2009, 10:03 AM
happy to hear that, dude. good luck.
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: defTHE1s on Jan 24, 2009, 12:19 AM
you seem that you like more get stoned than get again a chance...
don't believe me, just joking!  ;D
good, don't screw it then!
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: ToneDef on Jan 26, 2009, 03:23 AM
Haha, nah man. It's just been taking the stress away.

I feel really great right now anyway. What a contrast.

Thanks for being, you know, supportive and shit guys.
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: Nailec on Jan 26, 2009, 04:20 AM
if you feel that your relationship is going downwards again, then you should be the one to quit.

it is so... satisfactory to be the first.


at least she owes you something for her behavior...
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: Fireal1222 on Feb 10, 2009, 04:22 PM
Quote from: ToneDef on Jan 01, 2009, 11:05 PM
And it hurts more than anything else in the world. I don't know what to do, you know? I can't stop crying and shit. I just feel so empty. I know this doesn't last forever but while it does it's just horrible. I just feel so sad.



you will get over it. takes a while. but you will.

remember what journey said

"true love doesn't desert you"
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: ToneDef on Feb 11, 2009, 04:59 PM
Things are going good right now. We're cool. Crazy shit! Life is just fucked up man.
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: Fireal1222 on Feb 11, 2009, 05:55 PM
Quote from: ToneDef on Feb 11, 2009, 04:59 PM
Things are going good right now. We're cool. Crazy shit! Life is just fucked up man.


no. girls are fucked up
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: whodunit? on Feb 11, 2009, 06:21 PM
edit: wrong thread. sorry.
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: ToneDef on Feb 12, 2009, 01:12 AM
Quote from: Fireal1222 on Feb 11, 2009, 05:55 PM
Quote from: ToneDef on Feb 11, 2009, 04:59 PM
Things are going good right now. We're cool. Crazy shit! Life is just fucked up man.


no. girls are fucked up

Word
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: Deftones-argentina on Feb 16, 2009, 03:19 AM
good to know everything's nice again dude! Enjoy it, but please...mantain you guard up, you get what I mean? That's the best advice I could give to anybody in your situation. You are now self aware that all things (including the best) don't last forever.
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: defTHE1s on Feb 17, 2009, 08:30 PM
yeah, keep in mind another possibilities in case something bad/wrong happens...
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: goldpony on Feb 17, 2009, 10:25 PM
Quote from: defTHE1s on Feb 17, 2009, 08:30 PM
yeah, keep in mind another possibilities in case something bad/wrong happens...

so in other words, keep another girl on the side ;D
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: Law on Feb 17, 2009, 11:45 PM
Had something very similar last year, was with a bird for three years, it was going great but she got apparent cabin fever saying it was too much. It has fucked me up big time and I am pretty damn insecure about being with women unless its something simple (you know what I mean), its weird because we broke up really over something pretty trivial as compared to other couples, I know that for a fucking fact, and its hard that she is still in touch.

Glad that it appears good for you mate, it doesn't for everyone so make the most of it, well for me anyway. Weird really that I am posting this, I used to post loads of shit like this when I was under the name Law, but this feels quite good, brings back some funny memories of this place back the day, I don't really wanna bring ATF back up though haha.

Good hunting.
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: defTHE1s on Feb 18, 2009, 03:12 AM
Quote from: goldpony on Feb 17, 2009, 10:25 PM
Quote from: defTHE1s on Feb 17, 2009, 08:30 PM
yeah, keep in mind another possibilities in case something bad/wrong happens...

so in other words, keep another girl on the side ;D
yeah, that's what i meant!  ;)  ;D
in spanish we say "para no quedarse como el perro de las dos tortas"... somebody here translate.. i'm lazy now.. zzzzzzz
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: tarkil on Feb 18, 2009, 06:34 AM
Quote from: Jambi on Feb 17, 2009, 11:45 PM
Weird really that I am posting this, I used to post loads of shit like this when I was under the name Law, but this feels quite good, brings back some funny memories of this place back the day, I don't really wanna bring ATF back up though haha.

Hmmmm, I didn't know you were Law...
Glad to know that you're still around....  :)
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: Law on Feb 18, 2009, 06:36 PM
Yeah mate its me, been a long long time now since I first signed up...
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: ToneDef on Feb 19, 2009, 02:07 AM
Yeah man, Law is fucking old skool!

Thanks for posting man, I'm really sorry shit didn't work out.
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: shine down unshy on Feb 19, 2009, 03:26 AM
grats on ur 2nd chance
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: Law on Feb 19, 2009, 05:23 PM
Quote from: ToneDef on Feb 19, 2009, 02:07 AM
Yeah man, Law is fucking old skool!

Thanks for posting man, I'm really sorry shit didn't work out.

No worries mate, shit happens I guess, balls to it all lol.
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: defkitty on Feb 24, 2009, 11:57 AM
Glad things worked out, but you shouldn't let her think she can just do shit like that whenever she feels like it.  I have a guy friend that's been going through the same thing for years now.  The chick is seriously fucking with his mind because she's young and has no clue what she really wants.  And then she feels like she can keep doing it cause he is puddy in her lil hands.  Anyways this dude has wasted so many opportunities with real women because he's sprung on this bitch.  Just a warning I guess if this is a pattern.  I definitely hope it keeps working out for you but don't let her forget how much you're worth.  As a chick myself I can tell you that if you don't, she will automatically view you as her "safety" guy when there is no one else.
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: greenbug23 on Feb 24, 2009, 07:23 PM
Quote from: defkitty on Feb 24, 2009, 11:57 AM
Glad things worked out, but you shouldn't let her think she can just do shit like that whenever she feels like it.  I have a guy friend that's been going through the same thing for years now.  The chick is seriously fucking with his mind because she's young and has no clue what she really wants.  And then she feels like she can keep doing it cause he is puddy in her lil hands.  Anyways this dude has wasted so many opportunities with real women because he's sprung on this bitch.  Just a warning I guess if this is a pattern.  I definitely hope it keeps working out for you but don't let her forget how much you're worth.  As a chick myself I can tell you that if you don't, she will automatically view you as her "safety" guy when there is no one else.

This is very true!!! Get a hold on that girl  ;)
Title: Re: So my girl broke up with me on new years eve
Post by: ToneDef on Feb 26, 2009, 05:56 PM
Yeah, I'm definitely a bit more cautious now. It all just fucks with your head and stuff. Makes you think irrationally. It's easy on the outside looking in, for sure.