So
we were together for almost 2 years
i was the one who decided to end it up.
the thing is that she was very nice and very bad at the same time. she was thinking like me, she always knew what i want, she had the same sense of humour, always cared about me. we had everything from romantic chinese breakfasts to hardcore sex in public places. but... not only good sides she had. she was always extremely paranoid about any girl i have contact is (whoever she is: classmate or friend's sister). a lot of conflicts beecause of that. sometimes she even phoned to such girls ordering to stop having any deals with me. She always started conflicts when i spend some time (too much in her opinion) with my friends, i couldn't stay at home for one evening: she accused me in unwilling to see her, to have a walk with her....
It's like she gave a lot and required even more.
i was thinking about if i can find someone at least not worst. well. probably i won't find anybody as good in good sides. but that somebody will not have so many bad sides.
i dunno if it's right decision or not. it wasn't easy but it's not dramatic.
going ahead?
Quote from: Zevaka on Jan 11, 2009, 02:57 PM
we had everything from romantic chinese breakfasts to hardcore sex in public places.
sounds like a keeper to me, Z.
You all need to get over this love horse shit and just enjoy your youth. Thats what I think anyways.
Quote from: Variable on Jan 11, 2009, 04:26 PM
You all need to get over this love horse shit and just enjoy your youth. Thats what I think anyways.
i disagree 100% i've been in a realationship for almost 6 years and i thank the god i don't believe in everyday for her.
don't give up hope man, you'll find someone.
Quote from: Variable on Jan 11, 2009, 04:26 PM
You all need to get over this love horse shit and just enjoy your youth. Thats what I think anyways.
well, i think we can't really check it =\ we can't live the same period with partner and then go back and try the same period without him/her. So who knows what's better
the end of such problems is just to live together - I tell ya.
Actually, that's just the start of them.... ;)
Quote from: tarkil on Jan 12, 2009, 03:01 AM
Actually, that's just the start of them.... ;)
No shit. Tarkil the wise man speaks again.
Quote from: devlin on Jan 11, 2009, 05:46 PM
Quote from: Variable on Jan 11, 2009, 04:26 PM
You all need to get over this love horse shit and just enjoy your youth. Thats what I think anyways.
and i thank the god i don't believe in everyday for her.
I really don't understand what you were trying to say there.
It's cool you don't agree with me. Obviously a lot of people don't. But I usually find that men and women in their 40s and 50s agree with me word for word when I talk to them about it. And believe me, I am very vocal about it. I still believe that there are always exceptions to the rule and all that. Only an idiot deals in absolutes. But I just think that the majority of people have a lot of growing up to do in their 20s and even sometimes in their 30s. Obviously some never grow up. But it just seems to me that people have some shit they need to get out of their system so that they don't look back and wonder what it would have been like and go into some fucked up mid life crisis and start doing all kinds of crazy shit. I'm just the sort of person that likes to play the odds and statistics.
Quote from: tarkil on Jan 12, 2009, 03:01 AM
Actually, that's just the start of them.... ;)
Very good, and very true, judging by my parents.
it sucks breaking up with someone u love..i actually ended a relationship in Dec...but met someone else on New Years eve and have a really hot new romance in my life, and i have to say, id rather have a girl and deal with her problems than be single and not caring about it..
it does a guy a lot of good to have a girlfriend..otherwise its like..get drunk all day, smoke weed, and end up going for a drunk drive to a park so you can set fire to something or break something...but i guess he who makes a beast of himself gets rid of the pain of being a man
It was defiently the right move. its probably best to move on and maybe one day she'll have sorted out he r insucurties and you can be together again.. or maybe not. but as siad before. Your young. You shold be having fun doing what you want,becuase beofre you know it you have 5 kids and are living off the dole (benifit) i don't think you have that in america.....
It obviosuly sucks. it'll be obviosuly hard to move away from ehr but good choice bro!
Btw.. what with all the breakups! its fricken new year man!.. Thats a good movie slogan
New year New GF .. Nobody can have him for over a year..
Quote from: Variable on Jan 12, 2009, 06:20 AM
Quote from: tarkil on Jan 12, 2009, 03:01 AM
Actually, that's just the start of them.... ;)
No shit. Tarkil the wise man speaks again.
Quote from: devlin on Jan 11, 2009, 05:46 PM
Quote from: Variable on Jan 11, 2009, 04:26 PM
You all need to get over this love horse shit and just enjoy your youth. Thats what I think anyways.
and i thank the god i don't believe in everyday for her.
I really don't understand what you were trying to say there.
It's cool you don't agree with me. Obviously a lot of people don't. But I usually find that men and women in their 40s and 50s agree with me word for word when I talk to them about it. And believe me, I am very vocal about it. I still believe that there are always exceptions to the rule and all that. Only an idiot deals in absolutes. But I just think that the majority of people have a lot of growing up to do in their 20s and even sometimes in their 30s. Obviously some never grow up. But it just seems to me that people have some shit they need to get out of their system so that they don't look back and wonder what it would have been like and go into some fucked up mid life crisis and start doing all kinds of crazy shit. I'm just the sort of person that likes to play the odds and statistics.
i guess i'm an exception then. my wild times were between the ages of 15-18. cut short by my son being born. but i'm not much of a drinker and i've never taken any drugs except weed once, i never slept around. my wild times were just hanging out with friends day and night and getting in alot of trouble. settling down was a good thing. i'm happy with my boring life. i'm doing right by my son and thats all that matters to me. but i can see why people without kids would have a totally different point of view.
fucking kill her
Quote from: devlin on Jan 12, 2009, 12:17 PM
i guess i'm an exception then. my wild times were between the ages of 15-18. cut short by my son being born. but i'm not much of a drinker and i've never taken any drugs except weed once, i never slept around. my wild times were just hanging out with friends day and night and getting in alot of trouble. settling down was a good thing. i'm happy with my boring life. i'm doing right by my son and thats all that matters to me. but i can see why people without kids would have a totally different point of view.
when did you become me? ;D
Quote from: Penicks on Jan 12, 2009, 05:04 PM
fucking kill her
no, you only kill her if
she is the object of unrequited affection....duh
Quote from: Zevaka on Jan 11, 2009, 02:57 PM
So
we were together for almost 2 years
i was the one who decided to end it up.
the thing is that she was very nice and very bad at the same time. she was thinking like me, she always knew what i want, she had the same sense of humour, always cared about me. we had everything from romantic chinese breakfasts to hardcore sex in public places. but... not only good sides she had. she was always extremely paranoid about any girl i have contact is (whoever she is: classmate or friend's sister). a lot of conflicts beecause of that. sometimes she even phoned to such girls ordering to stop having any deals with me. She always started conflicts when i spend some time (too much in her opinion) with my friends, i couldn't stay at home for one evening: she accused me in unwilling to see her, to have a walk with her....
It's like she gave a lot and required even more.
i was thinking about if i can find someone at least not worst. well. probably i won't find anybody as good in good sides. but that somebody will not have so many bad sides.
i dunno if it's right decision or not. it wasn't easy but it's not dramatic.
going ahead?
I was thinking about this and this is so 16-years-old
Quote from: whodunit? on Jan 12, 2009, 10:59 PM
Quote from: Zevaka on Jan 11, 2009, 02:57 PM
So
we were together for almost 2 years
i was the one who decided to end it up.
the thing is that she was very nice and very bad at the same time. she was thinking like me, she always knew what i want, she had the same sense of humour, always cared about me. we had everything from romantic chinese breakfasts to hardcore sex in public places. but... not only good sides she had. she was always extremely paranoid about any girl i have contact is (whoever she is: classmate or friend's sister). a lot of conflicts beecause of that. sometimes she even phoned to such girls ordering to stop having any deals with me. She always started conflicts when i spend some time (too much in her opinion) with my friends, i couldn't stay at home for one evening: she accused me in unwilling to see her, to have a walk with her....
It's like she gave a lot and required even more.
i was thinking about if i can find someone at least not worst. well. probably i won't find anybody as good in good sides. but that somebody will not have so many bad sides.
i dunno if it's right decision or not. it wasn't easy but it's not dramatic.
going ahead?
I was thinking about this and this is so 16-years-old
hahaha
thats kind of a dick thing to say. maybe he is 16. maybe its just his first serious relationship.
Quote from: goldpony on Jan 12, 2009, 09:49 PM
Quote from: devlin on Jan 12, 2009, 12:17 PM
i guess i'm an exception then. my wild times were between the ages of 15-18. cut short by my son being born. but i'm not much of a drinker and i've never taken any drugs except weed once, i never slept around. my wild times were just hanging out with friends day and night and getting in alot of trouble. settling down was a good thing. i'm happy with my boring life. i'm doing right by my son and thats all that matters to me. but i can see why people without kids would have a totally different point of view.
when did you become me? ;D
Haha don't lie Josh, you've smoked weed wayyy more than once. =o)
Quote from: White Pwny on Jan 13, 2009, 06:13 PM
Quote from: goldpony on Jan 12, 2009, 09:49 PM
Quote from: devlin on Jan 12, 2009, 12:17 PM
i guess i'm an exception then. my wild times were between the ages of 15-18. cut short by my son being born. but i'm not much of a drinker and i've never taken any drugs except weed once, i never slept around. my wild times were just hanging out with friends day and night and getting in alot of trouble. settling down was a good thing. i'm happy with my boring life. i'm doing right by my son and thats all that matters to me. but i can see why people without kids would have a totally different point of view.
when did you become me? ;D
Haha don't lie Josh, you've smoked weed wayyy more than once. =o)
who said i exhaled????
the girl i want is 16... and she seems to be pretty mature, most than many girls older i've ever meet!
Quote from: defTHE1s on Jan 14, 2009, 01:56 AM
the girl i want is 16... and she seems to be pretty mature, most than many girls older i've ever meet!
well, she's not. doesn't matter if she seems mature or not. girls that age should not be trusted.
mmm well... let's see if she is really grown up... she seems to be, but at the end, who knows, the only thing i say is that she impress me! maybe the word is not "seem", it would be "acts"...
Teenager anyone?
idiot version?
Quote from: Variable on Jan 11, 2009, 04:26 PM
You all need to get over this love horse shit and just enjoy your youth. Thats what I think anyways.
mr. variable pretty much nailed it right on the head. if you believe otherwise, you're setting yourself up for some serious heartache.
What I've learned in my 26 years.
You will never find your "soul-mate" in a bar.
Never date a black out drunk.
You cannot change people.
More than likely 14 - 18 (years of age) will not be a relation that will be forever. After you grow up and enter the real world people change quick.
Cheaters will always cheat.
Nice guys finish last, however they do finish.
Never rush a relationship.
Never play games, and if someone plays games with you they are not worth it.
It you can't love yourself no one can love you.
If it doesn't feel right don't do it.
Quote from: 13hourstoparadise on Jan 17, 2009, 04:58 PM
You will never find your "soul-mate" in a bar.
Never date a black out drunk.
Don't say that to girls dude, else I'm fucked.... :)
I pretty much agree with all your list though.
haha, okay, there are always exceptions... My last rule. :)
Quote from: 13hourstoparadise on Jan 17, 2009, 04:58 PM
What I've learned in my 26 years.
You will never find your "soul-mate" in a bar.
Never date a black out drunk.
You cannot change people.
More than likely 14 - 18 (years of age) will not be a relation that will be forever. After you grow up and enter the real world people change quick.
Cheaters will always cheat.
Nice guys finish last, however they do finish.
Never rush a relationship.
Never play games, and if someone plays games with you they are not worth it.
It you can't love yourself no one can love you.
If it doesn't feel right don't do it.
I'm fucked.
Quote from: bIondie on Jan 17, 2009, 06:02 AM
Quote from: Variable on Jan 11, 2009, 04:26 PM
You all need to get over this love horse shit and just enjoy your youth. Thats what I think anyways.
mr. variable pretty much nailed it right on the head. if you believe otherwise, you're setting yourself up for some serious heartache.
easy for you to say, you've never been near a girl.
A friend of mine wreckons that 16 - 17 year old girls nowadays are having sex like mad...anywhere they can too...in bathrooms at clubs...outside on lawns..
She knows coz she has 2 twin 17 year old sisters, and they say its crazy these days
Quote from: Jizzlobber on Jan 20, 2009, 09:27 AM
A friend of mine wreckons that 16 - 17 year old girls nowadays are having sex like mad...anywhere they can too...in bathrooms at clubs...outside on lawns..
She knows coz she has 2 twin 17 year old sisters, and they say its crazy these days
that's the impression I got as well. most of the girls I've been with were around that age at the time at they are very willing... but never know what the hell they're doing. and in general, when you go to parties and such, those girls are pretty much always the easiest. it's kinda of sad actually. but I guess that's when they really get going so to speak.
Quote from: 13hourstoparadise on Jan 17, 2009, 04:58 PM
What I've learned in my 26 years.
You will never find your "soul-mate" in a bar.
Never date a black out drunk.
You cannot change people.
More than likely 14 - 18 (years of age) will not be a relation that will be forever. After you grow up and enter the real world people change quick.
Cheaters will always cheat.
Nice guys finish last, however they do finish.
Never rush a relationship.
Never play games, and if someone plays games with you they are not worth it.
It you can't love yourself no one can love you.
If it doesn't feel right don't do it.
yeah and the point is :
never fall in love with a girl......
Quote from: aenemic on Jan 20, 2009, 09:39 AM
Quote from: Jizzlobber on Jan 20, 2009, 09:27 AM
A friend of mine wreckons that 16 - 17 year old girls nowadays are having sex like mad...anywhere they can too...in bathrooms at clubs...outside on lawns..
She knows coz she has 2 twin 17 year old sisters, and they say its crazy these days
that's the impression I got as well. most of the girls I've been with were around that age at the time at they are very willing... but never know what the hell they're doing. and in general, when you go to parties and such, those girls are pretty much always the easiest. it's kinda of sad actually. but I guess that's when they really get going so to speak.
yeah my wife works with a bunch of hgh school age girls and they are always talking about how many guys theyve slept with and the "party games" they play. whats unbelievable is that some of these girls have had 25+ partners bit are not yet 20, talk about meat curtains
i am glad i have a son!
I made the mistake of hooking up with an 18 year old, in my defense I thought she was older. Now she is dating a friend, she plays stupid little games and got him by the balls. When I was 17 she was 10, 10!!!!
I guess it's good to know I still got it.
Quote from: aenemic on Jan 20, 2009, 09:39 AM
Quote from: Jizzlobber on Jan 20, 2009, 09:27 AM
A friend of mine wreckons that 16 - 17 year old girls nowadays are having sex like mad...anywhere they can too...in bathrooms at clubs...outside on lawns..
She knows coz she has 2 twin 17 year old sisters, and they say its crazy these days
that's the impression I got as well. most of the girls I've been with were around that age at the time at they are very willing... but never know what the hell they're doing. and in general, when you go to parties and such, those girls are pretty much always the easiest. it's kinda of sad actually. but I guess that's when they really get going so to speak.
thx god the girl i was saying is not like those... she's 16 now, but she IS pretty mature (prob more than me when i was that age! fuck...)
Quote from: 13hourstoparadise on Jan 17, 2009, 04:58 PM
What I've learned in my 26 years.
You cannot change people. -Agree
More than likely 14 - 18 (years of age) will not be a relation that will be forever. After you grow up and enter the real world people change quick. -let's see what happens...
Cheaters will always cheat. -Fucking totally true!
Nice guys finish last, however they do finish.
Never rush a relationship. .That's what i'm doing now! calm dooowwwnn....
If it doesn't feel right don't do it. -I don't care! (response to this, i used this line by Green Day and you also used it in Nice guys finish last... LOL...)
Quote from: rock_n_frost on Jan 20, 2009, 10:33 AM
Quote from: 13hourstoparadise on Jan 17, 2009, 04:58 PM
What I've learned in my 26 years.
You will never find your "soul-mate" in a bar.
Never date a black out drunk.
You cannot change people.
More than likely 14 - 18 (years of age) will not be a relation that will be forever. After you grow up and enter the real world people change quick.
Cheaters will always cheat.
Nice guys finish last, however they do finish.
Never rush a relationship.
Never play games, and if someone plays games with you they are not worth it.
It you can't love yourself no one can love you.
If it doesn't feel right don't do it.
yeah and the point is :
never fall in love with a girl......
a boy would be better? :o
Quote from: defTHE1s on Jan 21, 2009, 12:14 AM
thx god the girl i was saying is not like those... she's 16 now, but she IS pretty mature (prob more than me when i was that age! fuck...)
don't be too sure. wait until she's 17. I have a friend who was homeless at age 15, started working and got her own place at age 16 and starting hanging out with people several years older. she's one of the most mature people for her age, if not THE most mature, I've ever met. but she's a total slut.
Quote from: whodunit? on Jan 21, 2009, 08:35 AM
Quote from: rock_n_frost on Jan 20, 2009, 10:33 AM
yeah and the point is :
never fall in love with a girl......
a boy would be better? :o
;D ;D no.. the wrong thing is falling in love :) keep having sex and dating girls but dont fall in love ;)
Quote from: aenemic on Jan 21, 2009, 08:44 AM
Quote from: defTHE1s on Jan 21, 2009, 12:14 AM
thx god the girl i was saying is not like those... she's 16 now, but she IS pretty mature (prob more than me when i was that age! fuck...)
don't be too sure. wait until she's 17. I have a friend who was homeless at age 15, started working and got her own place at age 16 and starting hanging out with people several years older. she's one of the most mature people for her age, if not THE most mature, I've ever met. but she's a total slut.
ok... i'll wait to see what happens... (she's only a friend by now, but i want her)... i'll take that advise then...
Quote from: rock_n_frost on Jan 21, 2009, 10:47 AM
Quote from: whodunit? on Jan 21, 2009, 08:35 AM
Quote from: rock_n_frost on Jan 20, 2009, 10:33 AM
yeah and the point is :
never fall in love with a girl......
a boy would be better? :o
;D ;D no.. the wrong thing is falling in love :) keep having sex and dating girls but dont fall in love ;)
or maybe i should follow this advise... :D
but with another girl... the one i was talking about deserves all my respect.
Quote from: defTHE1s on Jan 21, 2009, 09:53 PM
Quote from: aenemic on Jan 21, 2009, 08:44 AM
Quote from: defTHE1s on Jan 21, 2009, 12:14 AM
thx god the girl i was saying is not like those... she's 16 now, but she IS pretty mature (prob more than me when i was that age! fuck...)
don't be too sure. wait until she's 17. I have a friend who was homeless at age 15, started working and got her own place at age 16 and starting hanging out with people several years older. she's one of the most mature people for her age, if not THE most mature, I've ever met. but she's a total slut.
ok... i'll wait to see what happens... (she's only a friend by now, but i want her)... i'll take that advise then...
don't get me wrong dude, I'm not trying to put you off or anything. if you want her, then go get her. I'm just speaking out of experience when I'm saying that you're not mature when you're 16 years old. some people have got their shit together at that age and stay that way, but for most people that's the age when things really start happening and get wild. especially for girls.
yeah, i got it! that's why i take your advise to keep in mind... i know that most (if not all) people at 16 is immature...
it's just the impression i have over her... thanx 4 the words... some experiences will help..
Ill fucking say it. If you're 16, get the fuck over yourself. You are not going to find love. Fuck, you haven't even figured out how to dress properly. Why the fuck someone would think that after 16 years in of life, that they have grown enough to achieve what 99% of adults are looking intensely for, is beyond me. You are going to change SO much in the next decade, or two, that its not even worth messing around with. This just comes down to risk VS benefit. You are risking being one of the 1 or 2 % that actually meets their love you age compared to the large majority that meet them much later in life. The consequences being you wasting large amounts of your life on some bitch you will end up resenting + a very large possibility of you spending a large amount of time being heart broken and miserable as fuck ( check out a couple current threads on SL for proof ) + missing out an the LARGE amounts of pussy and head that high school chicks put out. compared to getting all that pussy and head, being happy, and enjoying your youth doing whatever the fuck it is you want to do without worrying about some bitch. The only other possible up side to looking for love at 16, is that your ass gets married earlier. Like, you are with that one girl, earlier. That sucks. You are both going to look back and wish you had partied more. Its bad odds, think about it.
I also think this is a mental health issue. Most people out desperately looking for someone tend to be really unhappy with themselves. They are trying to become happy on the whim of another person. This aint going to happen. As my man 13 said( in so many words) , You aren't going to be happy with someone else, until you are perfectly happy all by yourself. Trust me there kiddo.
Agreeeeed!
Love is a hard thing to come by, if you have it, great, but at such a young age live it up, it's lust (for the most part) -- Enjoy your youth - and wear a fucking condom!
Quote from: 13hourstoparadise on Jan 22, 2009, 06:52 AM
Agreeeeed!
Love is a hard thing to come by
theres no love.........its just familiarity or kind of a habbit
I fell in love once, it was great. Also the worst pain in the world when she cheated on me. Then more pain when I broke up with her and she stabbed me. Four times. Huge scars on my forearm, but I covered them with ink.
Quote from: 13hourstoparadise on Jan 22, 2009, 10:51 AM
I fell in love once, it was great. Also the worst pain in the world when she cheated on me. Then more pain when I broke up with her and she stabbed me. Four times. Huge scars on my forearm, but I covered them with ink.
yeah, thats the result.......
dont fall in love
- to my lovely people
Quote from: aenemic on Jan 14, 2009, 02:00 AM
Quote from: defTHE1s on Jan 14, 2009, 01:56 AM
the girl i want is 16... and she seems to be pretty mature, most than many girls older i've ever meet!
well, she's not. doesn't matter if she seems mature or not. girls that age should not be trusted.
yeah !...
Quote from: 13hourstoparadise on Jan 22, 2009, 10:51 AM
I fell in love once, it was great. Also the worst pain in the world when she cheated on me. Then more pain when I broke up with her and she stabbed me. Four times. Huge scars on my forearm, but I covered them with ink.
crazy bitch. what's there to miss?
Funny, I still do miss her... However I've learned what type of person I want to be in a relationship with, and I learned a lot about myself. No pain, no gain.
true, true. wise words.
Quote from: Variable on Jan 22, 2009, 05:12 AM
Ill fucking say it. If you're 16, get the fuck over yourself. You are not going to find love. Fuck, you haven't even figured out how to dress properly. Why the fuck someone would think that after 16 years in of life, that they have grown enough to achieve what 99% of adults are looking intensely for, is beyond me. You are going to change SO much in the next decade, or two, that its not even worth messing around with. This just comes down to risk VS benefit. You are risking being one of the 1 or 2 % that actually meets their love you age compared to the large majority that meet them much later in life. The consequences being you wasting large amounts of your life on some bitch you will end up resenting + a very large possibility of you spending a large amount of time being heart broken and miserable as fuck ( check out a couple current threads on SL for proof ) + missing out an the LARGE amounts of pussy and head that high school chicks put out. compared to getting all that pussy and head, being happy, and enjoying your youth doing whatever the fuck it is you want to do without worrying about some bitch. The only other possible up side to looking for love at 16, is that your ass gets married earlier. Like, you are with that one girl, earlier. That sucks. You are both going to look back and wish you had partied more. Its bad odds, think about it.
I also think this is a mental health issue. Most people out desperately looking for someone tend to be really unhappy with themselves. They are trying to become happy on the whim of another person. This aint going to happen. As my man 13 said( in so many words) , You aren't going to be happy with someone else, until you are perfectly happy all by yourself. Trust me there kiddo.
i agree 16 is too young to throwing around the word love. lust and love are easy to confuse and at 16 you lust after just about everything with a pulse. every girl is "the one" for about 2 weeks.
but man i have never heard anyone with such a harsh view on relationships/love before. not just referencing this post. i'm going to guess you were hurt bad by a girl when you were young or one of you parents hurt the other when you were a kid. you seem to so jaded.
"love" when you're 16 is actually just "hormones", not the feeling itself
Quote from: devlin on Jan 22, 2009, 12:38 PM
Quote from: Variable on Jan 22, 2009, 05:12 AM
Ill fucking say it. If you're 16, get the fuck over yourself. You are not going to find love. Fuck, you haven't even figured out how to dress properly. Why the fuck someone would think that after 16 years in of life, that they have grown enough to achieve what 99% of adults are looking intensely for, is beyond me. You are going to change SO much in the next decade, or two, that its not even worth messing around with. This just comes down to risk VS benefit. You are risking being one of the 1 or 2 % that actually meets their love you age compared to the large majority that meet them much later in life. The consequences being you wasting large amounts of your life on some bitch you will end up resenting + a very large possibility of you spending a large amount of time being heart broken and miserable as fuck ( check out a couple current threads on SL for proof ) + missing out an the LARGE amounts of pussy and head that high school chicks put out. compared to getting all that pussy and head, being happy, and enjoying your youth doing whatever the fuck it is you want to do without worrying about some bitch. The only other possible up side to looking for love at 16, is that your ass gets married earlier. Like, you are with that one girl, earlier. That sucks. You are both going to look back and wish you had partied more. Its bad odds, think about it.
I also think this is a mental health issue. Most people out desperately looking for someone tend to be really unhappy with themselves. They are trying to become happy on the whim of another person. This aint going to happen. As my man 13 said( in so many words) , You aren't going to be happy with someone else, until you are perfectly happy all by yourself. Trust me there kiddo.
i agree 16 is too young to throwing around the word love. lust and love are easy to confuse and at 16 you lust after just about everything with a pulse. every girl is "the one" for about 2 weeks.
but man i have never heard anyone with such a harsh view on relationships/love before. not just referencing this post. i'm going to guess you were hurt bad by a girl when you were young or one of you parents hurt the other when you were a kid. you seem to so jaded.
I guess I am Jaded. I think I'm just a realist more than anything. My parents did get divorced, although I really don't think that bothered me much at all. But I did get pretty fucked up by one girl right around the age of 18. So I guess you are right there. But still, I don't know if it is so much that as just observing the world and realizing reality. The happiest I have ever been was when girls were the last thing from my mind ( boys too you fucking sickos ) There are a lot of really cool things that I have done,, that might have been miserable if I was in a relationship and had someone to miss. I don't want to ever be held back because of some girl. Some girl who will more than likely leave at some point. Its just statistics.
But yeah, the last girl I dated HATED my views on this. This is like first date conversation for me. I lay it all out there and let em know exactly what they are getting into. I explained to her how I have a whole time line for when I am allowed to start dating , how long I have to date a girl before I propose, how long the engagement will be, how long until we have kids....I timelined my whole dam life. Drove her nuts. To this day she still gives me a hard time about it. Its pretty funny.
i like how you threw that disclaimer about boys in there trey :)
but srsly, give up on the timeline man. just let it happen. by setting a timeline, you set expectations (seemingly unrealistic) that may not be acheivable. for instance, what if you meet the coolest, most beautiful woman in the world, someone who wants to be with you and you want to be with; are you going to set a timeline on when you do certain things in the relationship? i understand not wanting to dive in and get burned, thats not what i'm talking about. i guess i'm trying to say dont be so rigid and allow for some flexability, cause you never know when the oppurtunity arrives and you should be flexible with these "timelines" since this hypothetical woman may not wait on your timeline.
oh, and a relationship should never hold you back. each partner should be free to explore their interests and oppurtunities but with the caveat that you know where home is
i agree the timeline is a bad idea. i can understand having goals or dreams. wanting to be married by 30 or whatever. but you have to let nature take its coarse. you'll do all those things when it feels right between you and your partner. not because of the date. i dunno how unromantic is that to propose to a girl just because you past the 5 yr mark or whatever. girls like spontaneous sweep them off there feet behavior, i'm not suprised your last girl was turned off by how regemented you are.
He's in the service, and used to getting told what time something is going to happen. It's only natural that he plans his life out like that. If that's the way he is, then he'll find a girl who likes being told what to do and when to do it and end up being happy, amirite?
Quote from: shine down unshy on Jan 22, 2009, 09:11 PM
then he'll find a girl who likes being told what to do and when to do it and end up being happy, amirite?
LMAO! Sadly...there are chics like that.
Quote from: shine down unshy on Jan 22, 2009, 09:11 PM
He's in the service, and used to getting told what time something is going to happen. It's only natural that he plans his life out like that. If that's the way he is, then he'll find a girl who likes being told what to do and when to do it and end up being happy, amirite?
yeah your probably right.
and i agree with having a strict routine on a daily basis. but planning out your life and having a timeline seems a bit excessive.
Quote from: shine down unshy on Jan 22, 2009, 09:11 PM
He's in the service, and used to getting told what time something is going to happen. It's only natural that he plans his life out like that. If that's the way he is, then he'll find a girl who likes being told what to do and when to do it and end up being happy, amirite?
Sgt. Trey: "Fix me my vittles woman, or i'll whup you again. you know i eat everyday at exactly 5:15 p.m."
Mrs. Trey: "yes dear, it wont happen again dear"
I can totally see this conversation happening
I recently hooked up with a sought after hot cheerleader from high school who was a grade ahead. We had a great time, the next day she laid her head on my lap for hours while he watched a few movies. I didn't take it too seriously but she seemed like she really wanted to start a relationship after wards... Then all of a sudden she stopped calling. I don't know if it is because she has a 3 year old child, I know she isn't in a relationship (maybe I popped too many pills in front of her). But as Trey pointed out little confusing senerio's like these really fuck with your head and you lean towards a time line because next time around you want to be the one calling the shots. Not some big breasted smoking hot... Damnit, now I want to "hang" out with her again... :)
Quote from: Variable on Jan 22, 2009, 05:12 AM
Ill fucking say it. If you're 16, get the fuck over yourself. You are not going to find love. Fuck, you haven't even figured out how to dress properly. Why the fuck someone would think that after 16 years in of life, that they have grown enough to achieve what 99% of adults are looking intensely for, is beyond me. You are going to change SO much in the next decade, or two, that its not even worth messing around with. This just comes down to risk VS benefit. You are risking being one of the 1 or 2 % that actually meets their love you age compared to the large majority that meet them much later in life. The consequences being you wasting large amounts of your life on some bitch you will end up resenting + a very large possibility of you spending a large amount of time being heart broken and miserable as fuck ( check out a couple current threads on SL for proof ) + missing out an the LARGE amounts of pussy and head that high school chicks put out. compared to getting all that pussy and head, being happy, and enjoying your youth doing whatever the fuck it is you want to do without worrying about some bitch. The only other possible up side to looking for love at 16, is that your ass gets married earlier. Like, you are with that one girl, earlier. That sucks. You are both going to look back and wish you had partied more. Its bad odds, think about it.
I also think this is a mental health issue. Most people out desperately looking for someone tend to be really unhappy with themselves. They are trying to become happy on the whim of another person. This aint going to happen. As my man 13 said( in so many words) , You aren't going to be happy with someone else, until you are perfectly happy all by yourself. Trust me there kiddo.
it's ok... i've got the point....
just i'll tell that i'm not wasting my life/time/whatever only wanting her... certainly i'm not crossing arms waiting her, i'm trying to get more chances with more girls, and she was mentioned here because she is the youngest of the ones that 'i'm hooked' with... and if he wants to go on with me, ok, let's fucking try it! and we'll see if it works, if not, well, there are many girls in the world!
but the thing that made me laugh was that you said a lot of things, more than my dad uses to say lol.... ;D ;D
Man, you guys are fucked up. Looking for a little house wife to answer my every beck and call is the exact opposite of what I am looking for. I don't want a house wife, and I don't want to be one either ( although the idea of a suga momma does excite me ;) ) I want a partner. Someone to share lives and careers with. I want a very independent woman, who will allow me to be independent. I need a woman who is so happy on her own , that it doesn't really matter if I am around or not. Of course the same for me. We just happen to enhance each others happiness, but we are cool without it too.
But you guys missed the point of the timeline. First, all the dates are minimum dates. So like I say that I can't seriously date a girl until I'm 30. This doesn't mean that the first girl I meet when I am 30 I'm going to jump into a relationship with. It just mean that nothing is going to happen before then. Also, it was made under great observation and premise. Ill use one of the many examples from people that I personally know.
I was deployed with a Marine Corps Captain. He was an Aviation supply officer. A boring, shitty, complete opposite of why people join the marines, job. Now the captain, was an athletic stud. He could run like no bodies business. Stood probably at about 6'5 but was still very thick with muscles. Could do calisthenics like it was cool, an all around stud right? Well he wanted badly to go into the special forces, because it was his way out of the life he hated and into the life he wanted. So he was training for it. But in the Process he meets a girl. A very lovely girl I assume, because he gave up his one opportunity to try out for the special forces because of her. Only to get dumped by her a year later, and leave him lonely and miserable in his aviation supply officer job for 20 years. Now had he had a timeline like me, he would probably have been an officer with Force Recon.
So reasons like that, are why the timeline was created. And believe me, I still have plenty of fun. And fuck some bitch that doesn't like it. Because I'm a hell of a catch and she would be lucky to be around when the time line did permit me to go to the next step with her.
Oh, and the rank of sergeant does not exist in the Navy. It would be HM2 for me. And I don't yell at girls or tell them what to do. I have class. And me making the timeline has nothing to do with me being in the military. I do believe in regimenting your life. Down to every single day. It increases productivity. But, me wanting to regiment my long term future came from educated observation. Not habits formed by the military.
LOL
ooohhh.. yeaah... man...... i'm FUCKING HAPPY! She's free now!!! but who cares?? I don't care....
ignore this post please...
I think that post proves my point