Ok, some of you may remember me going on about this guy who I kept seeing at gigs and never had the balls to speak to him? well I saw him on Sunday at Cannibal Corpse/Children of Bodom, chatted him up and meeting up with him tonight. I'm quite nervous and I have four hours until we meet. Do guy's get nervous about going on dates?
yeah, sometimes even I get nervous. Although girls do seem to freak out more than guys do about these kinds of things. Just relax and have fun k. Just dont try to impress him with some show of you being someone you really aren't. Just be yourself and have a good time. There is really nothing to be nervous about. It is either a good match or its not. Either way it says nothing about you personally. Good luck.
if your overly nervous its gonna hurt a flowing conversation. just have fun. and dont look at it like your necessarily going to havea great time. or your only going to let yourself down.
best of luck.
I don't even go on dates, that's how nervous they make me.
I'm soo glad I don't have to date anymore. The stress was horrible.
I haven't been in a date for a LONG time.
Quote from: devilinside on Feb 19, 2009, 03:47 PM
I'm soo glad I don't have to date anymore. The stress was horrible.
Quote from: lostpilot on Feb 19, 2009, 04:15 PM
I haven't been in a date for a LONG time.
same here.
the best way to get rid of the nervousness is just to get naked and fuck on the first date :)
getting nervous is part of the process... don't worry, i use to get nervous before, but during the date something happens that makes me forget the nerves, just let it flow... (a guy is speaking, so he'll be kind of nervous imo)
good look!
I haven't been on a date in three years. Never really asked a girl out either.
Quote from: devilinside on Feb 19, 2009, 03:47 PM
I'm soo glad I don't have to date anymore. The stress was horrible.
Quote from: lostpilot on Feb 19, 2009, 04:15 PM
I haven't been in a date for a LONG time.
+1
Quote from: goldpony on Feb 19, 2009, 05:03 PM
the best way to get rid of the nervousness is just to get naked and fuck on the first date :)
Amen.
Quote from: pissedandpierced on Feb 19, 2009, 02:31 PM
Ok, some of you may remember me going on about this guy who I kept seeing at gigs and never had the balls to speak to him? well I saw him on Sunday at Cannibal Corpse/Children of Bodom, chatted him up and meeting up with him tonight. I'm quite nervous and I have four hours until we meet. Do guy's get nervous about going on dates?
*keep one's fingers crossed*
i'm always nervous, at least at first.
but nudity definitely rulz.
Good luck! The nervousness will pass, just enjoy it.
make sure you dont go out there with a loaded gun.... clean the pipes before you go!
we're trying to give advices to a chick not a guy dude...
Quote from: goldpony on Feb 19, 2009, 05:03 PM
same here.
the best way to get rid of the nervousness is just to get naked and fuck on the first date :)
word
I guess I'm too cocky to get nervous. As far as I'm concerned , she is lucky to be going out with me. And if for some reason I feel that I have peaked and that I am lucky , and I need to be on my A game. I just sit around perplexed for a little while about how two awesome people like me and her met up and how weird it is as to how lucky the both of us are. Either way, I always envision her being lucky to see me. If a date goes bad for me its always her fault too. Her loss. Some may find this kind of thinking unattractive or a bit too elite. But, it really does make life simpler and more enjoyable for me. Plus I always treat a lady with tons of respect and class. So its not like she feels the affects of such an arrogant approach to the date. So its all good
But yeah, sex is always a great ice breaker. Some may say that if you have sex too fast, it will ruin things. But I counter that with, if you wait to long it ruins things. 2nd date is probably best. With some serious touchy feely on the first.
I eat a lot of valium and up the dose before a date -- then I don't get nervious at all...
I have an Rx, I don't abuse the drug.
Have fun, be yourself, and enjoy the night.
Thank you all for your advice. This is what happened:
He turned up, we chatted, he rested his head on my shoulder, he linked arms with me because 'his hands were cold' he walked about two miles out of his way to walk me to the bus station, I said thanks for a nice evening and he replied 'The pleasure really was all mine', he gave me a hug good bye and to let him know when I'm free to meet up again and to text him when I get home so he know's I arrived safely.
Is that a good sign?
I think it's a good sign.
He shows affection and submission to you in those little ways, so I think he will come back.. Cause a guy whose primary goal would be to sleep with you would not just hold hands or rest his head on your shoulder. He'd do something more "messagy". Good luck with him :)
Quote from: pissedandpierced on Feb 20, 2009, 09:49 AM
Thank you all for your advice. This is what happened:
He turned up, we chatted, he rested his head on my shoulder, he linked arms with me because 'his hands were cold' he walked about two miles out of his way to walk me to the bus station, I said thanks for a nice evening and he replied 'The pleasure really was all mine', he gave me a hug good bye and to let him know when I'm free to meet up again and to text him when I get home so he know's I arrived safely.
Is that a good sign?
+10 :)
Quote from: pissedandpierced on Feb 20, 2009, 09:49 AM
Thank you all for your advice. This is what happened:
He turned up, we chatted, he rested his head on my shoulder, he linked arms with me because 'his hands were cold' he walked about two miles out of his way to walk me to the bus station, I said thanks for a nice evening and he replied 'The pleasure really was all mine', he gave me a hug good bye and to let him know when I'm free to meet up again and to text him when I get home so he know's I arrived safely.
Is that a good sign?
awesome, you're in. congrats!
Quote from: pissedandpierced on Feb 20, 2009, 09:49 AM
Thank you all for your advice. This is what happened:
He turned up, we chatted, he rested his head on my shoulder, he linked arms with me because 'his hands were cold' he walked about two miles out of his way to walk me to the bus station, I said thanks for a nice evening and he replied 'The pleasure really was all mine', he gave me a hug good bye and to let him know when I'm free to meet up again and to text him when I get home so he know's I arrived safely.
Is that a good sign?
Aww..yes that's a good sign! :)
Quote from: pissedandpierced on Feb 19, 2009, 02:31 PM
Do guy's get nervous about going on dates?
ive been dating a someone new since Jan 1st, and i still get nervous...but not so much nervous as much as excited...thats just coz its been a few dates now..
but at first yeah , guys get really nervous coz they want to impress you very much
Quote from: pissedandpierced on Feb 20, 2009, 09:49 AM
Thank you all for your advice. This is what happened:
He turned up, we chatted, he rested his head on my shoulder, he linked arms with me because 'his hands were cold' he walked about two miles out of his way to walk me to the bus station, I said thanks for a nice evening and he replied 'The pleasure really was all mine', he gave me a hug good bye and to let him know when I'm free to meet up again and to text him when I get home so he know's I arrived safely.
Is that a good sign?
see, nothing to be nervous about. Yay!
Quote from: Variable on Feb 20, 2009, 01:52 AM
Quote from: goldpony on Feb 19, 2009, 05:03 PM
same here.
the best way to get rid of the nervousness is just to get naked and fuck on the first date :)
word
But yeah, sex is always a great ice breaker. Some may say that if you have sex too fast, it will ruin things. But I counter that with, if you wait to long it ruins things. 2nd date is probably best. With some serious touchy feely on the first.
totally. met this guy 2 nights ago. got his number and danced for a bit. then last night i got out of a club and was near his house. I just wanted to talk and drink wine. we did exactly that been when we got into bed, things just happened. good relief haha.
we'll hopefully see each other soon.
Quote from: Jerry_Curls on Feb 20, 2009, 11:45 PM
Quote from: Variable on Feb 20, 2009, 01:52 AM
Quote from: goldpony on Feb 19, 2009, 05:03 PM
same here.
the best way to get rid of the nervousness is just to get naked and fuck on the first date :)
word
But yeah, sex is always a great ice breaker. Some may say that if you have sex too fast, it will ruin things. But I counter that with, if you wait to long it ruins things. 2nd date is probably best. With some serious touchy feely on the first.
totally. met this guy 2 nights ago. got his number and danced for a bit. then last night i got out of a club and was near his house. I just wanted to talk and drink wine. we did exactly that been when we got into bed, things just happened. good relief haha.
we'll hopefully see each other soon.
oh la la
Quote from: pissedandpierced on Feb 20, 2009, 09:49 AM
Thank you all for your advice. This is what happened:
He turned up, we chatted, he rested his head on my shoulder, he linked arms with me because 'his hands were cold' he walked about two miles out of his way to walk me to the bus station, I said thanks for a nice evening and he replied 'The pleasure really was all mine', he gave me a hug good bye and to let him know when I'm free to meet up again and to text him when I get home so he know's I arrived safely.
Is that a good sign?
awesome!
Quote from: Jerry_Curls on Feb 20, 2009, 11:45 PM
Quote from: Variable on Feb 20, 2009, 01:52 AM
Quote from: goldpony on Feb 19, 2009, 05:03 PM
same here.
the best way to get rid of the nervousness is just to get naked and fuck on the first date :)
word
But yeah, sex is always a great ice breaker. Some may say that if you have sex too fast, it will ruin things. But I counter that with, if you wait to long it ruins things. 2nd date is probably best. With some serious touchy feely on the first.
totally. met this guy 2 nights ago. got his number and danced for a bit. then last night i got out of a club and was near his house. I just wanted to talk and drink wine. we did exactly that been when we got into bed, things just happened. good relief haha.
we'll hopefully see each other soon.
jerry you slut
Quote from: Jerry_Curls on Feb 20, 2009, 11:45 PM
Quote from: Variable on Feb 20, 2009, 01:52 AM
Quote from: goldpony on Feb 19, 2009, 05:03 PM
same here.
the best way to get rid of the nervousness is just to get naked and fuck on the first date :)
word
But yeah, sex is always a great ice breaker. Some may say that if you have sex too fast, it will ruin things. But I counter that with, if you wait to long it ruins things. 2nd date is probably best. With some serious touchy feely on the first.
totally. met this guy 2 nights ago. got his number and danced for a bit. then last night i got out of a club and was near his house. I just wanted to talk and drink wine. we did exactly that been when we got into bed, things just happened. good relief haha.
we'll hopefully see each other soon.
FAG...
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Quote from: pissedandpierced on Feb 20, 2009, 09:49 AM
Thank you all for your advice. This is what happened:
He turned up, we chatted, he rested his head on my shoulder, he linked arms with me because 'his hands were cold' he walked about two miles out of his way to walk me to the bus station, I said thanks for a nice evening and he replied 'The pleasure really was all mine', he gave me a hug good bye and to let him know when I'm free to meet up again and to text him when I get home so he know's I arrived safely.
Is that a good sign?
He sounds exactly like me. I pull that "text me when you get home so I know you didn't get murdered" all the time.
Then I later drunk dial them and ask them out because I do not have the courage to do it sober. I am both a mega wuss and a huge softie.
Quote from: Necrocetaceanbeastiality on Feb 22, 2009, 09:47 PMFAG...
But on a serious note, we all act soft for the ladies. Don't we?
Quote from: Crazylegs on Feb 22, 2009, 10:37 PM
Quote from: Necrocetaceanbeastiality on Feb 22, 2009, 09:47 PMFAG...
But on a serious note, we all act soft for the ladies. Don't we?
No, I am soft. It's funny because you're all trying to be soft to GET the ladies and I don't get the ladies because I actually AM soft.
life is cruel
Ain't that the truth.
Quote from: Variable on Feb 22, 2009, 05:51 PM
Quote from: Jerry_Curls on Feb 20, 2009, 11:45 PM
Quote from: Variable on Feb 20, 2009, 01:52 AM
Quote from: goldpony on Feb 19, 2009, 05:03 PM
same here.
the best way to get rid of the nervousness is just to get naked and fuck on the first date :)
word
But yeah, sex is always a great ice breaker. Some may say that if you have sex too fast, it will ruin things. But I counter that with, if you wait to long it ruins things. 2nd date is probably best. With some serious touchy feely on the first.
totally. met this guy 2 nights ago. got his number and danced for a bit. then last night i got out of a club and was near his house. I just wanted to talk and drink wine. we did exactly that been when we got into bed, things just happened. good relief haha.
we'll hopefully see each other soon.
jerry you slut
haha my straight coworker called me that last night when I was trying to take off his pants...
...huh.
I bet that isn't as interesting a story as it sounds.
I met up again with this guy on Saturday for a bit. I have this problem where I'm not very affectionate, I can be I just don't want to make a move and get rejected. He asked if I wanted a hug goodbye on Saturday and I shook his hand instead. I'm fucking crap at this stuff. I know I need to show some kind of touchy feeliness but I don't want to come across as a perv.
how would you come across as a perv if you accepted a hug?
srsly, if youre not an affectionate person (nothing wrong with that) you need to let him know pronto to avoid sending mixed signals. it will come, dont worry
Quote from: pissedandpierced on Feb 23, 2009, 02:17 PM
I met up again with this guy on Saturday for a bit. I have this problem where I'm not very affectionate, I can be I just don't want to make a move and get rejected. He asked if I wanted a hug goodbye on Saturday and I shook his hand instead. I'm fucking crap at this stuff. I know I need to show some kind of touchy feeliness but I don't want to come across as a perv.
Seriously, no girl can come across as a perv to a guy.
Although he's being nice and stuff, and he sounds as though he's a gentleman by the way, he's still a guy so when he's with you he's checking those tits out on the stealth and thinking "if she were to just spontaneously unzip my jeans and start tossing me off that'd be the shit!".. So there's no way you can come across as a perv.
As a female you can generally do no wrong in those areas actually.
Fair play for actually meeting up with him and shit though. I remember you talking about him and stuff on here forever ago. That mystery guy and shit.
Quote from: pissedandpierced on Feb 23, 2009, 02:17 PM
He asked if I wanted a hug goodbye on Saturday and I shook his hand instead.
:o the hand shake may give him a sign that you are not interested in him, and have him feeling confused as to what to do next. Lighten up and live a little, it was just a hug. You have been wanting this guy for a while now, right? Just go with the flow, you may be happy with how things turn out.
For real nows. Last advice I have you was to sleep with him on the 2nd date. Not shake his hand!
In all seriousness though, even if you are a bit shy. It's really ok to put yourself out there far enough as a hug. Even maybe an extended hug. Let the guy know that you are interested, but you just want to move slow. He just needs to know that he didnt fuck anything up and that you are attracted to him. I get it if you just want to move real slow and let things happen. But you gota take one or two steps forward to secure him enough to stick around. Travis and Jackie are both right on about what they said. Just try to look excited to see him. Maybe try holding his hand. Its really ok for you to grab his hand. TRUST ME, you wont get rejected. Remember girl, hes lucky to be going out with you. Have some fun with it.
Quote from: ToneDef on Feb 23, 2009, 08:11 PM
Although he's being nice and stuff, and he sounds as though he's a gentleman by the way, he's still a guy so when he's with you he's checking those tits out on the stealth and thinking "if she were to just spontaneously unzip my jeans and start tossing me off that'd be the shit!".
Ha ha... It actually cannot get truer than this.... :)
yeah there is no such thing as a gentlemen who is not working against his natural inclinations. As in, no matter how nice a guy seems, he would rather be having sex with you. That's just the truth. No exceptions. Period.
I think I might have blown it. We arranged to meet up tonight on Saturday and he text me last night saying that he's sorry but unable to make it as he has stuff to sort out which has come up and he's having a bad week and will catch up soon with two x's. That pretty much means he's blown me out.
EDIT - I just found out that he's friends with a guy at work who's a complete cock to me. That explains everything.
Thanks for all your advice though guys x
It's not necessarily over. I have heard people come back from a lot worse. Just play it cool and give it some time. Don't talk to him for a little while. Then hope that he gets in contact with you. But if not, its ok, just hit him up and see if there is a good time to meet up again.
There's no point, according to this guy, he said that I was stalking him which I don't know if this was said or not but under no circumstances was I actually stalking him, even so, he was the one that suggested meeting up, put his head on my shoulder, tried to link arms and hugged me.
deosnt sound like this guy was worth the time
Yeah I'm thinking that now. I don't want to see anyone who is friends with this cock from work and that believes bullshit.
Yeah man, sounds like a dick.
Also, I have no hard evidence to support this, but he definitely has a small penis. Like, tiny. I heard he has to masturbate with chopsticks. Just saying...
Quote from: ToneDef on Feb 26, 2009, 03:54 PM
Yeah man, sounds like a dick.
Also, I have no hard evidence to support this, but he definitely has a small penis. Like, tiny. I heard he has to masturbate with chopsticks. Just saying...
LOL